tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21565739.post113863617801833282..comments2023-11-24T03:11:03.331-06:00Comments on You Get What You Get: Got Pain?WriterGrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18311438803372879731noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21565739.post-1138726771417474512006-01-31T10:59:00.000-06:002006-01-31T10:59:00.000-06:00I saw your comment on my blog (thanks for helping ...I saw your comment on my blog (thanks for helping me realize that I'm not some sort of mom-failure) which led me to your blog--pleasure to be here :-) <BR/><BR/>I just wanted to agree with what you wrote here in your post. People don't and can't know anyone else's pain, nor should they try to act like they do (profound, aren't I?). Everyone's got something they're dealing, or have dealt, with and what is painful to one may not be to another. That said, I think it's all part of the human condition, wanting to commiserate with someone on one level, but yet not having a true basis of comparison to do so. So we make stupid comparisons in return, not realizing that our words can be the most painful of all. <BR/><BR/>I have to say I'm sorry you're dealing with folks who just don't 'get it' or understand that fact. And I hope with you for an answer for your son...and will be checking back in on you all. Like the post before me said, "hang in there." Tough, I'm sure, but your words tell me that you're a fighter, and it sounds like your little man is too :-)Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14568577611703881392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21565739.post-1138650006939008082006-01-30T13:40:00.000-06:002006-01-30T13:40:00.000-06:00You are right. People often get so wrapped up in t...You are right. People often get so wrapped up in the specifics of their own pain that they doubt anyone without a similar roster of pain can remotely understand what REAL pain is. When we experience pain, we think back to the time before the pain and say "I could never have *imagined* that this would happen--and how devastating it would feel." We didn't truly understand it before we went through it, so it's natural to assume that others won't truly understand it, either. But the challenge (as if the pain itself isn't challenge enough) is to not allow oneself to become outwardly bitter and angry at those who haven't experienced the exact same thing. I don't know if the bloggers you talk about are just acknowledging the darker side of their pain... having found a safe setting in which to indulge in the raw, ugly emotions they must certainly feel. But comments like theirs are hurtful and alienating to anyone who is experiencing a different kind of pain but trying to reach out to fellow humans nonetheless.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com